Where Are You Putting Your Attention?

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Easter weekend my grandchildren came to visit.  It was a glorious spring weekend, trees sprouting tender greens, redbuds in pink and tulips of every color imaginable from palest yellow to deep purple.  We picnicked on the hillside in dappled shade and for a moment all seemed at peace with the world.  The Cheekwood Botanic Gardens were in bloom!  I embraced it all!  YIPPEE! The next day, we went to the …
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Accepting Graciously

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Do you love that feeling of doing for someone else?  Helping a co-worker find information?  Taking soup to an elderly neighbor?  Giving directions to someone who’s lost?  It re-enforces our belief that we are strong, capable, thoughtful, generous and caring.  What a bargain. When we give to others we get back so much in return! Yet for some of us, it feels uncomfortable to be on the receiving end and …
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How to Escape the Trap of Absolutes

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This bed is too hard.  This bed is too soft.  But this bed is just right. Recently, I lost an engagement to another consultant.  Never mind that I had mixed emotions about working with the company.  There were lots of good reasons I was better off not working with them.  But I was, nevertheless, brought up short by their choosing someone else. Part of me was hurt, another part wanted …
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What’s In Your Bowl?

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After couple of rough years – struggles at work, challenges with a child, and an unexpected financial loss, I came across a reference to American monk, Thomas Merton.  He said an essential part the monk’s practice is accepting with gratitude whatever is placed in his bowl for the day.  Deal with what life presents you but be grateful for it! I can tell you that is NOT what I wanted …
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It’s Your Choice

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I’m so angry I just want to tell him off… can you believe he had the nerve to… after all I’ve done… how could he…? Righteous indignation.  There’s nothing like it.  It gives us permission to express feelings, use strong language and stay focused on the flaws of the other person.  As well it revs up the heartbeat, pumps out adrenaline and distracts us from the daily routine of life.  …
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